Glossary

Separation anxiety

Distress shown by a cat when left alone, such as crying, destroying things, soiling or overgrooming while the owner is away.

Also called: separation-related problems, cat separation distress, being left alone

Separation anxiety describes a cat that becomes very distressed when its person leaves. Signs include loud crying as you go or while you are out, following you from room to room, destructive scratching near doors, going to the toilet outside the box, vomiting, refusing food and excessive grooming. Some cats are over the top in greeting when you return.

Cats are often thought of as fully independent, but many form strong bonds. Cats that were hand-reared, weaned early, have lived with one person or have been through a sudden change in routine seem more at risk, although research on cats is still limited. A medical problem can cause the same signs, so book a vet visit first.

Help comes from lowering stress and building confidence. Leave out puzzle feeders, safe toys, window perches and hiding spots, and keep departures and returns calm rather than dramatic. A second cat does not always help. Short, planned absences, then longer ones, can build tolerance. Leave a worn T-shirt in the bed if that comforts the cat. Ask your vet about severe cases, because a behaviourist and, in some cases, medication may be advised.

Last reviewed November 7, 2026

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